Koncept, da so razlogi za poroko duhovne in intelektualne vrline ter lepota bodočega partnerja, ter prepričanje, da mora biti izbira partnerja svobodna, se je začel nekje v 18. stoletju med meščani. Na kmetih pa je bil na Slovenskem razlog še v prvi tretjini 20. stoletja gospodarski: ne zveza sorodnih duš, ampak zveza dveh enako bogatih kmečkih gospodarstev; poroke revnega kmeta ali kmetice z bogatim zgolj zato, ker sta mlada dva zaljubljena, starši niso dovoljevali in zaljubljenci so se njihovi volji uklonili. Osrednji slovenski pisatelji kmečkega porekla, npr. Josip Jurčič, Josip Stritar in Ivan Tavčar, pa so v nekaterih svojih zgodnjih proznih delih iz 60-ih do začetka 80-ih let 19. stol. prikazovali nasprotno, namreč konflikte med kmečkimi starši in otroki, ker se ti hočejo iz ljubezni poročiti z revnejšim izvoljencem ali izvoljenko. To pomeni, da so pisatelji meščanski vzorec pravice do poroke iz ljubezni pripisali kmečki mladini, kar pa je bilo v realnosti zelo redko.The idea that marriage should be based on the spiritual and intellectual virtues – and the personal beauty – of the future partner, as well as the belief that partner selection should be a matter of individual choice, emerged among the bourgeoisie in the 18th century. However, in the Slovenian countryside, the motives for marriage remained primarily economic until the first third of the 20th century: marriages were not unions of soulmates but of two rural estates of equal wealth. Parents would not allow a poor farmer or farmer’s daughter to marry a wealthy partner solely out of love, and young couples generally submitted to their parents’ wishes. The most prominent Slovenian writers of rural origin, e.g. Josip Jurčič, Josip Stritar and Ivan Tavčar, depicted a different reality in some of their early prose works from the 1860s to the early 1880s. They described conflicts between rural parents and their children, who wished to marry poorer partners for love. This means that writers attributed to rural youth the bourgeois model of the right to marry for love, which was, in reality, very rare.
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