This master's thesis deals with the field of everyday and love life after a breakup due to the infidelity of a partner. A notable aspect within the discussed topic pertains to the personal recovery of individuals following the revelation of a partner's infidelity or the dissolution of a relationship - a domain that, unlike partner recovery, has been disregarded and underexplored. In the theoretical section, I outline the transformations that privacy, intimacy, and love undergo in late modernity. I also delve into the definition of partner infidelity, its various types, and the historical context of infidelity within partner relationships. I also explore the interplay of factors contributing to partner infidelity and provide a detailed description of the stages that ensue following its discovery, including the discovery phase, decision-making phase, and recovery phase. In the empirical section, I conduct interviews with six individuals to ascertain the process of individual recovery following a breakup due to a partner's infidelity, as well as identifying the factors that aided them in their recovery journey. I also explore how the infidelity of the partner that led to the breakup marked their further everyday and love life, and how they faced such influences in new partnerships. The findings indicate that following the separation triggered by their partner's infidelity, individuals encounter financial difficulties, diminished self-esteem, and alterations in their living arrangements, sustenance, and the upbringing of shared children. It also becomes evident that recovery, following the discovery of infidelity or separation, is a deeply personal and intense emotional journey that requires time. People frequently experience stages in the grieving process following a loss. Simultaneously, individuals often experience emotions such as shame, betrayal, and humiliation, among other factors. During the recovery process, the social network serves as a crucial source of support, yet it can also introduce complications in certain aspects of the recovery journey. However, it's also revealed that the unfaithful partner, can play a significant role in the recovery of betrayed individuals by engaging in open communication and addressing their questions stemming from the discovery of infidelity. Recovery stands as a crucial prerequisite for establishing new connections and forming new partnerships after experiencing such a breakup. The findings also indicate that a majority of the participants in the study developed heightened distrust and fear regarding the possibility of experiencing infidelity when entering into new partner relationships. This caution led them to approach new relationships with more vigilance than usual. In new partner relationships, they experience increased and more frequent feelings of jealousy, leading to a heightened need to protect the relationship. Open and honest communication between partners is a crucial method for addressing the effects of past experiences of infidelity in a new relationship. The experience has prompted many individuals to focus on self-improvement and reflect on their desires and needs in future partnerships, leading to more fulfilling and compatible relationships for many following such experiences.
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