Odnos z mamo v družini po razvezi : diplomsko delo

Škerjanec, Kristina (author), Poljšak-Škraban, Olga (mentor), Klemenčič Rozman, Mija Marija (comentor)

V svoji diplomski nalogi sem raziskovala, kakšni so odnosi med mamo in (odraslimi) otroki v razvezani družini, ne glede na to, kdo je skrbnik otrok. V teoretičnem delu sem najprej opredelila in razčlenila pojem družine nasploh, nato sem se posebej posvetila spoznavanju enostarševskih in reorganiziranih družin. Preučila sem, kako pogosta je razveza v današnjem času in zakaj do nje sploh pride. Zanimalo me je tudi, kakšne so njene posledice za člane družine, ob čemer sem se posebej osredotočila na posledice, ki jih ima ločitev staršev na otroka. Pojem razveze sem razširila tudi na istospolne družine, nato pa sem se usmerila v spoznavanje medsebojnih odnosov v družini in iskanje dejavnikov, ki privedejo do sporov. Preučila sem kako se odnosi v družini spremenijo, ko pride do ločitve in kaj se ob tem zgodi z odnosom med mamo in otroki. Empirični del sem oblikovala na podlagi dveh pogovorov, ki sem ju izvedla s fokusno skupino, v katero so bila vključena štiri dekleta, dva fanta in sama, kot soustvarjalka. Vsi udeleženci prihajamo iz ločenih družin in živimo (ali smo živeli) z materami. Iz pogovorov sem izvedela, da ima ločitev velik vpliv na odnose, ki se tvorijo znotraj družine, poleg tega pa so sodelujoči potrdili, da je razveza okrepila predvsem njihov odnos z mamo, vsaj na začetku pa je pri nekaterih pripomogla tudi h kakovostnejšem odnosu z očetom. Spoznala sem, da so dekleta z mamami močno povezana in jim pogosto nudijo tudi čustveno oporo, medtem ko imata fanta prav tako dober odnos, vendar jim mami nudita predvsem pomoč pri vsakodnevnih opravilih. Ugotovila sem tudi, da se hčerke z mamami nekoliko bolje razumejo, oziroma da lahko kakovost njihovega odnosa opišemo z drugačnimi komponentami, kot odnos mama-sin. Poleg tega sem spoznala, da na odnos med mamo in otrokom vpliva tudi materina osebnost ter njen način soočanja s težavami.

• Language: Slovenian
• Keywords: reorganizirana družina, skrbništvo, odnosi, odnos med mamo in otrokom
• Work type: Bachelor thesis/paper
• Typology: 2.11 - Undergraduate Thesis
• Organization: PEF - Faculty of Education
• Publisher: [K. Škerjanec]
• Year: 2017
• Number of pages: 33 str., [11] str. pril.
• PID: 20.500.12556/RUL-95002
• UDC: 173.1(043.2)
• COBISS.SI-ID: 11681865
• Publication date in RUL: 19.09.2017

Secondary language

• Language: English
• Title: Relationship with mother in the family after divorce

Abstract

My diploma thesis is based on a research about mother-(adult) child relationship in divorced families, regardless of who has custody of children. In the theoretical part, I first defined and analyzed the concept of the family in general, then I focused onto learning about single-parent and reorganized families. I've studied how common divorce is nowadays and learned about the factors that trigger the divorce. I was also interested in what its consequences are for family members, with particular focus on the consequences of parental separation on the child. I also extended the notion of divorce to same-sex families. Then I focused on learning about mutual relations in the family and finding about the factors that lead to conflicts. I was also interested in how relationships in the family change when a divorce occurs and what happens to the relationship between mother and children. I created an empirical part on the basis of two interviews that I conducted with a focus group that included four girls, two boys and myself, as a co-creator. All participants come from a separate family and live or have lived with their mothers. From the interviews I learned that the separation has a great influence on the relations that are formed within the family. The participants confirmed that the divorce strengthened especially their relationship with mothers, and at least at the beginning, it also contributed to a better relationship with their fathers. I realized that girls with mothers are very closely connected and often offer emotional support, while the boys have a good relationship, but they are mostly helpers in their everyday tasks. I also found out that daughters have slightly better relationship with their mothers in comparison with relationship between mothers and sons or at least the quality of their relationship is described with different components. I also realized that mother-child relationship is influenced by mother's personality and by her way of facing problems.

• Keywords: family, divorce, child of divorced parents, družina, ločitev, otrok ločenih staršev