Stiska, iskanje opore, predanost in razvijanje odpornosti

Erzar, Tomaž (author)

V prispevku poskušamo odgovoriti na vprašanje, kakšni so pogoji, da ljudje lahko izražajo stisko na čustveno podprt način in iščejo oporo v smislu varnega navezovanja na bližnje. In še, zakaj v krščanskem izročilu izražanje stiske ter iskanje opore pogosto razumemo moralistično, in ne v novozaveznem duhu predanosti in zaupanja, kakor nakazujeta odlomka Lk 18, 35-43 in Lk 19, 1-10. Kadar se ljudje v stiski ne počutijo dovolj varne, da bi svojo nemoč razkrili, in se bojijo zavrnitve, pomoč zavračajo ali izkoriščajo. Moralistična drža do človeške stiske in iskanja opore predstavlja nereflektirano reakcijo na omenjeni način soočanja s stisko. V strahu, da bi ponujeno sočutje in podpora človeku v stiski spodbudila njegov egoizem in sebičnost, se moralist nanj jezi in izkorišča njegovo stisko za kritiko in poduk. Kadar so pretekle izkušnje s stiskami ljudi naučile, da je stiska kraj globoke povezanosti in bližine, lahko v stiski začutijo z njo povezana čustva in sprejmejo oporo: stiska lahko zanje predstavlja priložnost za osebno, medosebno in duhovno rast. V prispevku ugotavljamo, da človek v časih stiske razvije odpornost, kadar na podlagi pozitivne izkušnje iskanja opore razvija tudi vse večjo sposobnost predanosti, zaupanja in odpiranja Dobremu.

• Language: Slovenian
• Keywords: stiska, soočanje, moralizem, opora, odpornost, predanost, Sveto pismo, Nova zaveza
• Work type: Article
• Typology: 1.02 - Review Article
• Organization: TEOF - Theological Faculty
• Publication status: Published
• Publication version: Version of Record
• Publication date: 01.01.2020
• Year: 2020
• Number of pages: Str. 415-423
• Numbering: Letn. 80, [št.] 2
• PID: 20.500.12556/RUL-163651
• UDC: 159.9:27-246
• ISSN on article: 0006-5722
• DOI: 10.34291/BV2020/02/Erzar
• COBISS.SI-ID: 41061635
• Publication date in RUL: 10.10.2024

ERZAR, Tomaž, 2020, Stiska, iskanje opore, predanost in razvijanje odpornosti. Bogoslovni vestnik : glasilo Teološke fakultete v Ljubljani [online]. 2020. Vol. 80, no. 2, p. 415–423. [Accessed 17 May 2025]. DOI 10.34291/BV2020/02/Erzar. Retrieved from: https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/IzpisGradiva.php?lang=eng&id=163651

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• Title: Bogoslovni vestnik : glasilo Teološke fakultete v Ljubljani
• Shortened title: Bogosl. vestn.
• Publisher: Teološka fakulteta
• ISSN: 0006-5722
• COBISS.SI-ID: 8745472

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Secondary language

• Language: English
• Title: Distress, seeking support, surrender, and developing resilience

Abstract

In this article, we try to answer the question of what are the conditions for people to express distress in an emotionally supported way and seek support in terms of secure attachment to loved ones. And further, why in the Christian tradition the expression of distress and the search for support is often understood moralistically, rather than in the New Testament spirit of surrender and trust, as indicated by Luke 18: 35-43, and Luke 19: 1-10. When people in need do not feel safe enough to reveal their helplessness, and are afraid of rejection, they decline or exploit the offered help. The moralistic attitude towards human distress and the search for support represents an unreflected reaction to the aforementioned way of coping with distress. Fearing that compassion and support offered to a person in need would encourage one‘s egoism and selfishness, the moralist angrily uses his/her distress for criticism and unsolicited instruction. If, on the other hand, people have learnt from past experiences of distress that distress is a place of deep connection and closeness, they will be able to get in touch with the feelings associated with distress and accept help. Distress then presents them with an opportunity for personal, interpersonal, and spiritual growth. We suggest that people develop resilience in times of distress, when, based on a positive experience of seeking support, they also develop an increasing ability to surrender, trust and open up to the Good.

• Keywords: distress, confrontation, moralism, support, resilience, surrender, Holy Bible, New Testament