Doživljanje in reševanje konfliktnih situacij v partnerskem odnosu pred prihodom in po prihodu otrok : magistrsko delo

Vižintin, Luka (author), Repič Slavič, Tanja (mentor)

V magistrskem delu nas je zanimalo doživljanje in reševanje konfliktnih situacij v partnerskem odnosu pred prihodom in po prihodu otrok. Teoretični del zajema domačo in tujo strokovno literaturo in se začenja z obsežnim analitičnim pregledom s področja partnerstva in družine, nadaljuje pa z raziskovanjem konfliktov in z načini reševanja konfliktnih situacij. V empiričnem delu so predstavljeni izsledki raziskave, v kateri je sodelovalo 8 parov oziroma 16 udeležencev, od tega 8 žensk in 8 moških. Starost udeležencev je bila med 30 in 41 let, pet parov je poročenih in trije so v izvenzakonski zvezi. Vsi udeleženci so živeli z družino v istem gospodinjstvu, starost otrok je bila med 2 in 9 let. Z vsakim udeležencem je bil izveden intervju, ki je bil nato analiziran po fenomenološki metodi. Izsledki so pokazali, da se je pri polovici parov povečalo število konfliktov v obdobju po prihodu otrok in da pri polovici parov ni prišlo do sprememb. Izsledki kažejo tudi, da je precej parov poročalo o spremembi občutij ob konfliktnih situacijah po prihodu otrok. Pri mnogih se je raven intenzivnosti konfliktov precej dvignila. Udeleženci obeh spolov se hitreje razburijo, se ne zadržijo več ob sporih in se prepustijo jezi in besu. Jeza je bila pri ženskah, v primerjavi z obdobjem pred prihodom otrok, pogosteje izražena. Izkazalo se je, da so bile najpogostejše teme pred prihodom otrok povezane z ljubosumjem, gospodinjskimi opravili, službo in organizacijo. Po prihodu otrok so najpogostejše teme konfliktnih situacij spolnost, finance, odnosi s partnerjevo družino, skrb za gospodinjstvo in vzgoja otrok. Ugotovili smo, da pri načinu reševanja konfliktnih situacij ni prišlo do bistvenih sprememb. Oba spola sta za glavni način reševanja konfliktov izpostavila pogovor. Izsledki kažejo, da oba spola večinoma menita, da v povprečju prihaja do razlik med spoloma. Nekateri pari razlike predpisujejo predvsem osebnosti, vzgoji, izobrazbi in družbeni ureditvi.

• Language: Slovenian
• Keywords: konflikt, partnerski odnos, starševstvo, družina, reševanje konfliktov
• Work type: Master's thesis/paper
• Typology: 2.09 - Master's Thesis
• Organization: TEOF - Theological Faculty
• Place of publishing: Ljubljana
• Publisher: [L. Vižintin]
• Year: 2021
• Number of pages: VI, 100, III str.
• PID: 20.500.12556/RUL-131995
• UDC: 159.922.2(043.2)
• COBISS.SI-ID: 80354051
• Publication date in RUL: 08.10.2021

Secondary language

• Language: English
• Title: Experience and resolution of conflict situations in partnership before the arrival and after the arrival of children

Abstract

In the master's thesis, we were interested in experiencing and resolving conflict situations in a partnership, before and after the arrival of children. The theoretical part covers domestic and foreign professional literature and begins with an extensive analytical view in the field of partnership and family, it continues with the research of conflicts and conflict resolution. The empirical part presents the results of a study in which 8 couples or 16 participants participated, of which 8 were women and 8 were men. Participants ranged in age from 30 to 41, five couples are married and three are in a serious relationship. All participants lived with their families in the same household, the age of the children was between 2 and 9 years old. An interview was conducted with each participant, which was then analyzed with the phenomenological method. The results showed that half of the couples had an increased the number of conflicts in the post-arrival period and that half of the couples had no changes. The findings also show that quite a few couples reported a change in feelings during conflict situations after the arrival of children. For many, the level of conflict intensity has risen considerably. Participants of both sexes understand each other faster, they no longer linger indisputes, and indulge in anger and rage. Anger was more common in women than in the period before the arrival of the children. It turned out that the most common topics, before the arrival of the children, were related to jealousy, household chores, work, and organization. After the arrival of children, the most common topics of conflict situations are sexuality, finances, relationships with the partner's family, caring for the household and raising children. We found that there were no significant changes in the way of resolving conflict situations. Both sexes highlighted conversation as the main way to resolve conflicts. The results show that both sexes are of the majority opinion that there are gender differences on average. Some couples prescribe differences primarily to personality, upbringing, education, and social order.

• Keywords: conflict, partnership, parenting, family, conflict resolution