Doživljanje vpliva materinstva na partnersko zvezo : magistrsko delo

Dovečar, Klementina (author), Simonič, Barbara (mentor)

Partnerski odnos velja za enega najpomembnejših odnosov v človeškem življenju. Pri tem pa povečanje družine, torej prihod otroka, kaže na velik mejnik v partnerskem odnosu, saj močno zamaje dotedanjo dinamiko in pozornost usmeri v otroka. Partnerja se tako v obdobju nosečnosti in prvega leta soočata z močnimi občutji in utrujenostjo, ki lahko zamaje razmerje. Partnerja morata ponovno ovrednotiti njuno razmerje in na novo postaviti temelje. Prvi otrok pa po drugi strani prinese veliko poglobljene povezanosti in drugih pozitivnih občutij. V magistrskem delu smo preko posameznih doživljanj udeleženk raziskovali, na kak način se spremembe kažejo ob prihodu otroka, ko se pozornost usmeri na novega člana. Za raziskavo smo uporabili kvalitativno metodo fenomenološkega pristopa, kjer smo s polstrukturiranimi intervjuji pridobili posamezne vtise za to obdobje. V raziskavi je sodelovalo 5 udeleženk, ki so izpolnjevale zahtevana merila. Pri udeleženkah se je pokazalo, da so večinsko zadovoljne s partnerskim odnosom po prihodu otroka, vendar smo zabeležili tudi negativne spremembe, ki pa v našem primeru niso prevladovale. Raziskava je pokazala, da so bistveni temelji razmerja kakovost odnosa pred otrokom, predvsem pa dobra komunikacija in reševanje konfliktov, saj so to orodja, s katerimi sta partnerja negativna občutja in neskladja pozitivno reševala. Več sprememb je bilo opaziti tudi na področju delitve dela, skupnega preživetega časa, nege otroka in intime. Za pomembno se je izkazalo tudi načrtovanje otroka, ki je povezano z dejavniki financ, izobrazbe in bivanjske ureditve. Omeniti je treba tudi pričakovanja, ki veljajo za velik dejavnik pri vzpostavljanju novega sistema in razvoj le-teh velja za neizbežnega v času nosečnosti. Udeleženke so čez začetne spremembe prehajale različno, na kar je vplivalo tudi okolje in okoliščine. Posebnim pripravam na otroka in spremembe udeleženke niso dajale velikega poudarka. V splošnem so vse udeleženke izrazile, da so s partnerjem in njunim odnosom zadovoljne, prav tako s partnerjevo pomočjo pri otroku, kar predstavlja velik vpliv na njihovo zadovoljstvo s partnerskim odnosom.

• Language: Slovenian
• Keywords: partnerski odnos, prvi otrok, zadovoljstvo, fenomenološko psihološko raziskovanje, starševstvo, tranzicija v starševstvo.
• Work type: Master's thesis/paper
• Typology: 2.09 - Master's Thesis
• Organization: TEOF - Theological Faculty
• Place of publishing: Ljubljana ; Maribor
• Publisher: [K. Dovečar]
• Year: 2021
• Number of pages: VI, 90, II str.
• PID: 20.500.12556/RUL-127456
• UDC: 159.942:347.63
• COBISS.SI-ID: 66880771
• Publication date in RUL: 08.06.2021

Secondary language

• Language: English
• Title: Experiencing influence of motherhood on partner relationship

Abstract

Expecting a child is one of the biggest relationship milestones because it significantly affects the relationship dynamics and draws attention towards the child. During pregnancy and the first year, partners are faced with powerful emotions and fatigue, which can take a toll on their relationship. It is crucial that both of them re-evaluate their relationship and lay a new foundation to reinforce the bond between the two of them. On the other hand, the first child also contributes to a deeper connection between partners and helps discover new positive emotions. The master’s thesis focuses on female participants expecting a child and how the new family member changes the partner relationship. We acquired the necessary information about the impressions of our female participants, during their pregnancy and the first year, with the help of semi-structured interviews and the phenomenological approach (a form of qualitative research). The research was based on 5 female participants that met the necessary conditions. The study showed that the women are generally satisfied with the relationship they have with their partner even after the child was born but we also registered a few negative changes, which did not prevail. The research indicated that the key to a healthy relationship is a caring relationship in front of your child, good communication and conflict resolution. The female participants also highlighted that they noticed positive changes in sharing housework, in the quality time spent together, child care and intimacy. An important factor was planning for pregnancy, which allowed the couples to, at least in part, sort out their finances, education and accommodation before the baby comes. It is worth noting that the expectations, which are considered unavoidable during pregnancy, are very important in establishing a new system. The first changes did not affect our female participants in the same way, because the environment and circumstances played an important role as well. The women did not have any special preparations for the child and did not pay a lot of attention to the occurring changes. The female participants are satisfied with their partner and with the help, which has a very positive impact on their partner relationship.

• Keywords: partner relationship, first child, satisfaction, phenomenological psychological research, parenthood, transition to parenthood