Izkušnja odhoda od doma mladih odraslih z ločenimi starši : magistrsko delo

Presečnik, Tina (author), Cvetek, Mateja (mentor)

Avtorica je v magistrskem delu raziskovala, kakšen pomen ima izkušnja ločitve staršev na mlade odrasle, ki odhajajo od doma. V teoretičnem delu se sprehodi skozi družino, kakšna je vloga očeta in matere, kakšne vrste navezanosti poznamo, kako se katera razvije in odraža kasneje v partnerskem odnosu. Avtorica se ustavi tudi pri sami ločitvi, kakšne posledice ima za otroke, kako se otroci odzivajo v posameznih starostnih skupinah ter kakšne so njene posledice v odraslosti. Na koncu predstavi še mlade odrasle, skozi katere faze razvoja gredo ter kako se soočajo s samim odhodom od doma. V empiričnem delu je predstavljena raziskava, v kateri je sodelovalo 8 udeležencev. Udeleženci so bili mladi odrasli, stari med 20 in 30 let, ki imajo izkušnjo ločenih staršev. Avtorica je uporabila vnaprej pripravljen polstrukturiran intervju, ki je pokrival naslednja področja: izkušnja ločitve staršev, izkušnja odhoda od doma, oblikovanje občutka lastne vrednosti, odnos s starši ter vstopanje in oblikovanje intimnih odnosov z vrstniki. Rezultati so pokazali, da vsi udeleženci nosijo težo ločitve, saj se o tem ne morejo pogovarjati s svojimi starši. Močno si želijo varnega prostora, kjer bi lahko spregovorili o občutjih, ki jih nosijo v sebi. Prepričani so, da bodo v partnerskem odnosu naredili vse, da bodo ustvarili varen prostor za pogovor, najprej zase in nato tudi za svoje otroke. Glede samega odhoda od doma se izrecno ne pokaže povezava z ločitvijo, saj udeleženci še vedno živijo doma in so od doma samo med tednom zaradi študija. Je pa opaziti močno navezanost na starša, s katerim živijo, občutek krivde, če jih za vikend ni doma in strahu, da bi ga izgubili, kar lahko kaže na resne težave pri selitvi od doma. Pojavlja se tudi strah pred razočaranjem staršev, kar jih omejuje pri oblikovanju občutka lastne vrednosti. Zaključimo lahko, da je odnos med otrokom in staršem pomemben v vseh življenjskih obdobjih. Ne glede na to, ali pride do ločitve ali ne, je otroka potrebno vzgajati tako, da se bo čim prej čutil samostojnega in bo pripravljen na odhod od doma.

• Language: Slovenian
• Keywords: starši, mladi odrasli, odhod od doma, ločitev, posledice ločitve, navezanost, razvojne faze.
• Work type: Master's thesis/paper
• Typology: 2.09 - Master's Thesis
• Organization: TEOF - Theological Faculty
• Place of publishing: Ljubljana
• Publisher: [T. Presečnik]
• Year: 2019
• Number of pages: IV, 137 str.
• PID: 20.500.12556/RUL-111341
• UDC: 159.922.2-053.6-055.52(043.2)
• COBISS.SI-ID: 8200538
• Publication date in RUL: 28.09.2019

Secondary language

• Language: English
• Title: Experience of young adults with separated parents leaving home

Abstract

In this post-graduate work, the author has researched the effect the divorce of the parents has on young adults who are leaving home. In the theoretical part, she explains what a family is, the role of the father and mother, the types of attachments, how fast they develop and how they later reflect in a romantic relationship. The author also explores the divorce itself, what consequences it has on the children, how children in different year groups respond and the consequences it has on them once they grow up. In the end, she presents young adults, the development phases that they go through and how they deal with leaving home. In the empirical part, research with eight participants is presented. The participants are young adults between twenty and thirty years old with the experience of divorced parents. The author used half-structured interview, which she prepared in advanced, and that covered several areas: the experience of parent’s divorce, the experience of leaving home, developing the feeling of self-worth, relationship with parents and starting and developing intimate relationships with peers. The results have shown that all the participants carry the weight of their parent’s divorce because they cannot talk about it with their parents. They long for a safe space where they could talk about their feelings regarding the divorce. They are certain that they will create a safe space for talking in their romantic relationships, first for themselves and their partner and later for their children. Leaving home isn’t directly linked with the divorce because the participants still live at home and are away only during the week due to college. There is however a strong attachment to the parent with whom they live, a strong feeling of guilt if they do not come home for the weekend and fear of losing this parent as well. All of this can lead to serious problems when it comes to leaving home. There is also fear from disappointing their parents which is very restricting when young adults want to develop their sense of self-worth. We can conclude that the child-parent relationship is significant in all eras of life. Regardless if the parents get divorced or not, the child has to be raised in such a way that he or she feels independent and ready to leave home as soon as possible.

• Keywords: parents, young adults, leaving home, divorce, consequences of divorce, attachment, phases of development.