The theoretical part and research follow the thought of René Giard. His discovery of the mimetic principle radically enters the cyclical repetition of violence because he actually touches the roots spread in disordered desires, object or person possession which wake up the wishes leading them into the mimetic, that is imitation competition and rivalry. Tension and violence increase must finally be released outwardly or in autoaggression. What is crucial is the Jewish-Christian tradition comprised in the Holy Scriptures, which is not history, written and explained by the winners, but a clear message that the victim is systemically complicated in relations but always innocent because violence is unacceptable, most clearly revealed in the New Testament.
Special attention is directed to a woman who through history had to endure a lot of violence for her kindness towards the environment due to education and subordinate position in society. What is surprising, however, is the percentage of women convicted of neglect and violence against children stemming from her frustrations. The typical form of female verbal violence against men, confirmed by our research, is an expression of primarily impulsive responses. Female violence is rooted in unexpressed wishes that are pushed out of consciousness. Pressed in the shadow of the unconscious these desires more strongly and more devastatingly determine relations through other strategies of violence, such as: aggression of emotional blackmail, possessiveness, manipulation, accusation and guilt.
Neurobiology confirms how unhealthy relationships, rejection or even abandonment damage to such an extent that hormonally-conditioned response is scientifically proven, especially through hormone aggression DHT (dihydrotestosterone). Meanwhile, safe attachment and later the creation of trustful relationships are primarily triggered by hormone oxytocin. Both hormones are indicative of the direction of relationships development.
The empirical part deals with unreasonable developments and implementations of the female strategy of violence against men, especifically over four men of the same family. The confrontation with the fact of emotional manipulation, accusation, guilt and possessiveness of a woman/wife over a man/husband and children shows how compassionate awareness of the fact of generational transmission would be welcome. Thus, in these partnership relations, there remains much imperceptions, because as seen above, without a responsible awareness one’s own history of traumatic records and, consequently, transfer to descendants repeat.
It is awareness and confrontation with behavioural patterns that give the possibility of external changes and a long-lasting inner transformation also in the above described cases. This birth "from above" is the fruit of the Holy Spirit, the gift of Christ.
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