Introduction: The literature review reveals that a »good« midwife has many personal characteristics, theoretical knowledge, communication skills, moral and ethical values. Due to the lack of research we can not define what women value in midwives. The values and characteristics change according to different definitions, competences and actors involved in midwifery care. Purpose: In this paper we want to find out what first-time mothers value in a midwife, as well as their experiences and expectations regarding midwives that took care of them through the giving birth process. Methods: Qualitative research was used and data was collected through semi-structured interviews with each participant. The interviews were analysed with thematic analysis and subsequently the data was included in a process of coding and conceptualising results and was then compared to other data and literature. Results: The following themes emerged: the role of a midwife, support during childbirth and personal characteristics of a midwife. Women who participated in our study wanted more choices with their labour positions and more instructions on breathing and relaxation techniques. Women were scared of routine procedures, labour pain and everything unknown. They describe a »good« midwife as someone with good communication skills, professional knowledge and positive personal characteristics. In a relationship with the woman, she is an equal individual. Discussion and conclusion: Satisfaction with the first childbirth experience influences any following reproductive and gynecological choices. The satisfaction is affected by a relationship between a midwife and a mother to be. Good communication skills help a midwife perceive a woman as an individual. Results of the research show that midwifery care is still more focused on physical needs and is not holistic enough. The role of a midwife is to put the woman in labour in the centre of her care. and to help women with their professional knowledge and positive characteristics through their giving birth experience.