Overthinking about romantic relationships is a problem which many individuals face. Forms and development of overthinking differ in beginnings, endings, cyclic sensations, insecurities, and uncertainties in decision making for entering in a relationship, during the relationship and after the relationship potentially ends. Overthinking is also accompanied by changes in individual’s self-esteem.
The goal of this research is finding out how experiencing overthinking effects adult individuals, using the phenomenological method and how overthinking works in romantic relationships with individuals, who define themselves as “overthinker”.
The participants of this research have been having seconds thoughts about the quality of their relationship and had also experienced fear, confusion, and anger. From our research about overthinking we can also define the fact that people, experiencing overthinking, tend to be completely self-aware and self-reflective about their actions and tend to find solutions for their problems despite experiencing overthinking in their lives.
Our research shows that overthinking does exist in all participants, no matter the gender and no matter the age group in which they belong and that overthinking gets experienced also by people who define and practice their relationship in secure attachment style. Using the phenomenological method, the author completed seven interviews with male and female participants, who define overthinking as both a positive and a negative trait. The participants were also self-reflective and recognized themselves in past and future situations, which would reflect dealing with overthinking, as well as describing the cycles of negative thoughts. Analysis of interviews showed the dealing with overthinking and coping with triggers, which were recognized as part of past experiences of abandonment, ostracizing, and insecurities.
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